I often think about success and how I can achieve it. So, I study the greats in many sectors to learn about their success journey.
What personality traits do they have?
Their skills or knowledge play a crucial role in their success. However, their self-confidence had a more significant impact.
Confidence is a crucial trait for success. Whether it’s confidence in communication, your ability to get what you want, or something else. If you aren’t self-assured, don’t expect to achieve more incredible things.
I have experienced a lack of confidence in myself since early childhood. I was a shy kid in school who couldn’t speak up for what he wanted to say. This harmed my growth when I grew up and faced the reality of life.
I’m much wiser now, although I’m still learning every day. I figured out that changing my personality is possible. So, I became confident by doing certain things right.
1. Positive self-talk
The words you speak are powerful. They have a significant impact on your reality.
One of the first books I read was Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. In one of the chapters, he talks about the importance of autosuggestion.
Autosuggestion is the agency of control through which an individual may voluntarily feed his subconscious mind on thoughts of a creative nature, or, by neglect, permit thoughts of a destructive nature to find their way into this rich garden of the mind.
Your words control how you think and feel.
I have stuck a little note in my bathroom mirror as a reminder to say something nice to myself. Whenever I see that note, I affirm that I am confident. Doing this makes me feel more energetic. I become more confident, and my body language shifts to a confident person’s.
Positive self-talk is crucial for success.
According to ancient Hindu mythology, Goddess Saraswati sits on the tongue at any given time during the day, and if you make a wish at this time, that wish will be fulfilled soon.
2. Focus on the energy
Changing your personality is all about shifting your energy from negative to positive.
If you constantly feel low and negative, that becomes your reality. You are prone to feeling depressed and anxious all the time.
In the past, I avoided uncomfortable situations, which decreased my confidence. I wasn’t ready to do things outside my comfort zone.
Practicing daily meditation has made me more self-aware of my thoughts and emotions. Therefore, I always try to remain calm, even in stressful situations. It might take some time, but I get there eventually.
Your energy can make you a confident person.
3. Gratitude
We often think about the things we lack and forget the valuable things in our lives.
Practicing gratitude can transform your confidence and personality in beautiful ways. Gratitude boosts self-esteem and your overall well-being, contributing to greater confidence.
I practice gratitude in two ways. First, I speak or write about what I’m grateful for daily. It enhances my energy and makes me feel optimistic.
Second, I close my eyes and imagine having the things I want and being the person I want to be. Seeing my new and improved version makes me feel grateful. I thank the universe for giving me the strength to become this person. This visualization practice enhances my confidence.
Gratitude can bring miracles into your life. Ensure you practice this daily.
Why “fake it till you make it” doesn’t work
One of the top pieces of advice on building confidence is to fake it. It sounds like a wise thing to do, but it can be challenging.
If you can fake it, you may become it. If it were easier to pretend like something you are not, everyone would be confident. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. I know because I’ve tried it.
You don’t want temporary confidence. You want to change your personality and become a confident person.
Therefore, instead of faking your confidence, work on transforming your personality. The best way to do that is by reprogramming your subconscious mind through positive self-talk, shifting energy, and practicing gratitude.
