Whenever I saw people living a wonderful life, I wondered how they did it. It seems so effortless.
They have everything they want. And even if there are some downfalls, they seem to get along really well.
What’s the secret?
Most of these people I’ve met have one thing in common. They are extremely positive. They seem to have high self-esteem, which allows them never to doubt themselves.
Their sense of identity is so powerful that no external factors can affect them. That’s when I understood the power of self-identity.
One of my favorite self-help books is Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. In his book, Maltz discusses how one’s self-image is a true reflection of how they live their life. It’s not about how much money people have or the environment they live in, but their image of themselves that truly matters.
This suggests that our identity defines our lives.
When you choose to believe you are something, you become it. Your daily actions and behaviors start to align with the identity you have built for yourself. Even when the external circumstances speak otherwise, when you have a strong belief about who you are, the environment and people around you begin to change the way you want them to.
That’s the power of self-image.
How to change your identity?
It’s simple, you start changing your beliefs and acting in alignment with what you want to be. Transforming your life becomes 100 times easier when you can shift your identity — thinking, acting, and believing in the person you want to become and the life you want to live.
Remember, what you think and believe about yourself is what you eventually become.
We have been programmed to create an identity for ourselves based on our past. Parents, teachers, friends, coworkers, and society have led us to believe we have a fixed identity. Then there are the experiences that have programmed beliefs about ourselves into our minds.
Think about a child and how their self-identity changes. When they are just beginning to speak and understand, their parents begin programming their minds. They start differentiating between good and bad. A few “bad” examples:
- Money doesn’t grow on trees.
- You can’t have that because we are poor and can’t afford it.
- You are not smart enough.
And some “good” examples are:
- You can do anything and become anything if you work hard and believe in yourself.
- Be kind to others, and God will bless you for it.
How a parent speaks and acts in front of a child will directly impact a child’s thoughts and beliefs about himself.
That’s how we get programmed.
But the good news is that change is possible. If you can reprogram your old beliefs, you can change your life. You can have anything you want and become anything you aspire to be.
It’s only a matter of changing your inner reality.
Think, speak, and act as the person you want to be.
Live as though you already have what you want. That’s when things start to change. Your inner identity becomes your outer reality.
That’s the power of how identity shapes reality.
Thinking a certain way doesn’t cost you anything. You have nothing to lose. So, start there. And eventually, your job is to turn negative beliefs into positive ones. In the past, you might have thought that you couldn’t have (or do) something. It’s time to change that — internally at first.
Spoken words have power. Never speak negatively about yourself and your life. Say only what you want to manifest into your reality. For instance, never say, I can’t do it, because when you say it, you start believing in it. And that will be your reality.
Repeat what you want to improve. The best way to improve any skill is repetition. So, when you keep saying you are powerful and you can do it, guess what? You will. Write positive notes and put them where you can see them daily. Read them out loud to yourself with complete faith in yourself.
This might sound woo-woo to you, and I know you have heard such “techniques” before. But it’s all about how you interpret them. Sometimes, it becomes necessary to try additional methods to transform your beliefs entirely.
The goal is identity shifting. Once you do that internally, nothing is stopping you. And as I said, you have nothing to lose. You can start right now. Start believing that you can become different. Start speaking positive words to yourself. Start acting like you are the person who achieves everything you desire. Eventually, all of that will be true.
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