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		<title>Why I Stopped Reading Books, And Why You Should Too</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>I’ve been an avid reader for almost 10 years. Reading is a part of my life — a habit I couldn’t imagine not following. Reading hundreds of self-help books made me a better person and taught me life lessons I couldn’t otherwise have learned. I got hooked when I understood why reading was essential. At first, I [&#8230;]</p>
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<p class="graf graf--p">I’ve been an avid reader for almost 10 years. Reading is a part of my life — a habit I couldn’t imagine not following.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">Reading hundreds of self-help books made me a better person and taught me life lessons I couldn’t otherwise have learned.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">I got hooked when I understood why reading was essential. At first, I thought reading books was only in schools and colleges. I didn’t want to read more books after my academic education had ended.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">Thanks to the internet for helping me build a reading habit.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">The first book I picked from the store was <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">Think and Grow Rich </em>by Napoleon Hill. There has been no stopping me since.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">As I said, books helped me learn about life, business, relationships, money, markets, etc. I would never have been the person I am today if it hadn’t been for the books I read.</p>
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<h4 class="graf graf--h4">Unfortunately, I have to end this decade-long habit. I have decided not to read books anymore.</h4>
<p class="graf graf--p">I still love reading and do it every day. However, a few weeks ago, I realized something that changed my perspective on reading books.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">Reading had become a forceful activity for me. Instead of actually learning something, I read only for its sake—in other words, I read only because it was a habit. This had been going on for a few months.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">I was buying book after book, but my life remained the same. I didn’t notice any change in me like I did before. In the past, reading books like <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">How to Win Friends and Influence People, Rich Dad Poor Dad, The Psychology of Money</em>, etc., practically impacted my life. However, I cannot capture the same effect from reading now.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">Most people I know have a similar problem. They read books, but their lives remain unchanged. Why are they still struggling if they have read so many books and gathered so much information on life?</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">I know reading books won’t magically transform your life. But they should have a significant impact on you.</p>
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<h4 class="graf graf--h4">I was reading books even when they weren’t helping me.</h4>
<p class="graf graf--p">Reading is only helpful if you are <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">implementing</em> what you learn. Reading helps, but you need <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">action </em>because it’s the only thing that can genuinely help you progress.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">My motive for quitting reading is to focus on action and implement what I have learned. I want to bring the things I’ve read to life and make significant changes in parts of my life with the books I’ve read.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">Having said that, I’m not quitting reading forever—I can never do that. It’s just a short break to reevaluate the impact of this habit on my life and ensure that it’s actually worth it.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">As I said, I want to focus on implementation.</p>
<blockquote class="graf graf--blockquote graf--startsWithDoubleQuote"><p>“Don’t read 53 books a year. Instead, read one book and implement the lessons for 53 weeks.” — Unknown</p></blockquote>
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		<title>Too Much Consuming, Very Little Doing: The Formula for Zero Progress</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 21 Oct 2023 04:09:19 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Alright, I’m going to be honest with you. I have been consuming too much self-help content lately. But nothing has changed in my life. I read books every day. I watch inspirational videos on YouTube. I listen to podcasts that give me a boost of motivation. Still…my life is the same. My income hasn’t grown. [&#8230;]</p>
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<div class="section-divider"><span style="font-size: 16px;">Alright, I’m going to be honest with you. I have been consuming too much self-help content lately. But </span><em class="markup--em markup--p-em" style="font-size: 16px;">nothing </em><span style="font-size: 16px;">has changed in my life.</span></div>
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<p class="graf graf--p">I read books every day. I watch inspirational videos on YouTube. I listen to podcasts that give me a boost of motivation.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p"><em class="markup--em markup--p-em">Still</em>…my life is the same.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">My income hasn’t grown. I feel the same negative emotions. And I can’t seem to fix many aspects of my life.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p"><em class="markup--em markup--p-em">What is wrong with me?</em></p>
<p class="graf graf--p">After thinking deeply about it, I’ve understood that:</p>
<blockquote class="graf graf--pullquote"><p>Consuming inspirational or motivational content won’t produce any significant outcome unless you take action.</p></blockquote>
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<p class="graf graf--p">When you read books and watch motivational videos online, it feels good. You seem to understand what you must do to become your higher self and achieve great things.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">But after you are done reading, watching, or listening, everything returns to normal — the same as before.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">You don’t remember much of what you consume.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">But most importantly<em class="markup--em markup--p-em">, </em>you don’t <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">implement </em>much of what you consume.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">People read books because they think reading will magically transform their lives.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">Sadly, <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">it won’t</em>.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">When you read (or consume) something good, you must remember and implement it. Only then you transform your life.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">Don’t just watch a motivational video to feel good at the time. Instead, watch it to make better decisions. For example, listening to Joe Rogan speak about the importance of “being in good shape” might inspire you to join the gym. But if you lose that inspiration an hour later, there’s no use. You only wasted your time. Instead, you should physically make changes by joining the gym and exercising consistently.</p>
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<p class="graf graf--p">Alex Hormozi says that reading tons of books didn’t help him make any transformation. His life was the same after reading ten to fifteen self-help books.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">Instead, he says that <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">behavior </em>and <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">action </em>actually got him to learn.</p>
<blockquote class="graf graf--pullquote graf--startsWithDoubleQuote"><p>&#8220;You learn so much more from your first 100 sales call than you will from every single book in the library on sales.&#8221; — Alex Hormozi</p></blockquote>
<p class="graf graf--p">You only learn something when your behavior changes under the same circumstance. For example, you go to a restaurant and order a pizza. Then, you find a video where a doctor says <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">pizza </em>is not good for your health, especially if you want to lose weight. A few days later, you go to the same restaurant. But this time, you order a salad. It shows that you learned something because you changed your behavior.</p>
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<h2 class="graf graf--h4">How do you make progress?</h2>
<p class="graf graf--p">Change your <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">action </em>and <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">behavior</em>.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">When you read a book, take notes. You can use a notebook, sticky notepad, or your phone. Read the important lessons repeatedly so that you remember them. Then, act.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">When I read <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">How to Win Friends and Influence People </em>for the first time, nothing changed. I wasn’t making any progress talking to people. I was still the same introverted, shy kid who wasn’t good at communication.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">I saw a significant change only after reading the book three times, taking notes, and implementing the lessons from the book in real life. For instance, I’d <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">listen more</em> when people were talking, <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">be interested </em>in them, try to talk about <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">their </em>passion, <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">call them by their names</em>, and <em class="markup--em markup--p-em">smile </em>more. I applied these strategies in almost every conversation I had. Using these techniques helped me become a better communicator. I could see a positive change in my people skills.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">The same goes for consuming other types of content — videos, podcasts, audiobooks, articles, etc.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">Start journaling about what you learn. Go through them each day and analyze if you have made progress.</p>
<p class="graf graf--p">Don’t consume for the sake of consuming. Instead, do it to achieve a more significant transformation.</p>
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