Here’s What Being Calm Taught Me About Relationships And Communication

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Your emotions possess the power to determine your reality.

The way you feel impacts how you live your life. If you constantly feel sad and negative emotions, you will attract more of them. Positivity and success come to your life only if you control your emotions.

Being calm is an essential trait for living a happy and successful life. It can transform your relationships with others and how you deal with them — which is crucial for success.

I learned the importance of being calm the hard way. Whenever I argued with my girlfriend, I would react instantly. I wouldn’t stop and listen to what she was saying. Instead, I was in a hurry to speak my point of view. My relationship has gotten so much better after learning to be calm.

We also tend to overreact in most situations — good or bad. We get overexcited during the good times and anxious when things don’t go well.

This too will pass.

This is a mantra I live by. Whether the time is good or bad, one thing is sure: it will pass. So, it is essential to remain calm in every situation.

It doesn’t mean you can’t express your feelings and emotions. What I mean is that you shouldn’t take any moment for granted because it will go away sooner or later.

Remain calm and enjoy the present moment.

Better understanding

When you are calm, you better understand the situation or person.

It gives you a chance to observe the things around you. If someone is speaking, you can listen attentively instead of trying to say something or react quickly.

Listening is an essential skill for better communication. We often want to speak and express ourselves instead of listening to others. Being calm helps you listen better. As a result, you understand what is happening around you. You get the time to collect information about the situation or people.

Analyze and think about the situation

What is going on around me? What is the person speaking about? How am I reacting to this situation?

Remaining calm and listening more can help you answer these questions. When you are relaxed, your cognitive ability to process information grows.

During my arguments with my girlfriend, I never tried to see things from her perspective. Instead, I complained about her complaining. I never paused to think about her words or how she felt. My immediate reaction was based on her tone or body language.

Being calm has helped me look at things from her perspective. For example, I paused and questioned myself when she talked about something I did that she didn’t like. What did I do that made her react this way?

After understanding her point of view, I can always bring the situation under control.

Being calm helps you think about the situation from other people’s perspective.

Find the right thing to say or do

When you remain calm and analyze the situation, you will find the right way to respond or act.

Reacting instantly to your emotions isn’t always the right thing to do. You cannot act based on how you feel. Instead, you need to do what’s suitable for the situation.

Finding the correct way to react is possible only when you are calm. As I said, your ability to analyze the situation grows when you listen more. After everything has been said and done, your reaction is crucial. The only way to do it correctly is by remaining calm.

Final thought

It might not be possible to stay calm in every situation. Sometimes, circumstances can get out of hand. But you can still do a lot better.

Practicing meditation and mindfulness every day is the best way to learn to be calm. It only takes 10 minutes twice a day to improve.

I have been consistently practicing this for the past few weeks. It has helped me immensely to become more calm and take every situation under control.

I’ve also boosted my self-awareness, which is crucial for this practice.

Try it: Don’t react instantly to any person or circumstances. Hide your emotions. Relax and listen. Confuse the other person by not showing any reaction. Analyze the situation properly before reacting to it.